Mibini le mithetho yendlela yokuphila ngolonwabo:

1. Yiba nakho ukuba namava ayo nantoni na.
2. Yenza kuphela ezo abanye abantu banakho ukufumana amava ngokulula.

Umntu unemithetho emininzi yegolide (imigaqo yokuziphatha elungileyo). Umgaqo othi “Yenza kwabanye njengoko ufuna abanye benze kuwe” uphindaphindwe. Kodwa loo mithetho yegolide ayisoloko isiphumo sobungcwele, impumelelo okanye ulonwabo. Abakhathaleli kwinto umntu ayenzayo malunga nezinto ezenziwa kuye ngabo bangafundiswanga mithetho yegolide.

Uzenza njani izinto ezimbi ezenziwa kuwe?

Ukonwaba, kufuneka ukwazi ukujongana (oko kukuthi, amava) ezo zinto zilapho ukuze zibonwe okanye zinamava.

Ukungathembeki kuphela koku: Ukungakwazi ukujongana nale nto ujongene nayo.

Ke ngoko kufuneka ulandele lo mthetho: 1. Yiba nakho ukuba namava ayo nantoni na.

Inkcazo yokuziphatha elungileyo kukwenza kuphela ezo zinto zinokwenza abanye bazuze amava ngokulula.

Ukuba uhlolisisa ixesha lakho elidlulileyo, uya kufumana ingqalelo yakho inokunamathela kuphela kwizenzo ozenze abanye abangakwazanga ukuzifumana.

Umzekelo, kukho ixesha, xa unomsindo, wabetha umntu ngempumlo. Okanye likho ixesha apho uthathe ikhekhe lomntu uye wazitya ngokwakho ungamxelelanga umntu.

Izenzo ezininzi ezenziwa ngumntu ezazingenakwenziwa ngabantu, kokukhona umntu esiba mandundu. Akubona ukuba ubangele izinto ezininzi ezimbi, wayeka ukwenza izinto konke konke—imeko eyayingonwabisi ukuba phakathi.

Intlungu, ukukhathazeka kunye nokuphambana konke kubangelwa zizinto abanye abangenakuba namava ngazo ngokulula.

Zonke izenzo ezibi, ke, ezo zizenzo ezingenakufunyanwa lula ngumntu ozamkelayo.

Sisebenzisa le ncazelo, masijonge ezethu “izinto ezimbi” (ii overt). Zeziphi ezimbi? Kuphela ezo zinokungafumaneki lula komnye zazimbi. Ke, zeziphi izinto ezimbi ezenziwa eluntwini ezingalunganga? Zizenzo zobundlobongela ezikhokelele kwintlungu, ukungabikho zingqondweni okanye ubugeza, ezibangela umntu ukuba alahlekelwe kakhulu ngamava, njengokulahla imali yomntu.

Zeziphi ezinye izinto zakho ozithatha “njengezingalunganga”? Izinto ozenzileyo ezimbi ongakhange ukwazi ukufumana amava azo ngokulula. Kodwa izinto ozenzileyo onokuthi wazibonela ngokwakho, ukuba zazenziwe kuwe, bezingalunganga.

Akukho sidingo sokuphila ubomi obunobundlobongela nje ukubonisa ukuba ungabona amava. Uluvo ayiko kungqina amava, kodwa ukufumana kwakhona ukubanako ukuba namava ayo nantoni na.

Ke namhlanje sinemithetho emibini egolide yovuyo:

1. Yiba nakho ukuba namava ayo nantoni na.
2. Yenza kuphela ezo abanye abantu banakho ukufumana amava ngokulula.

Ukuba ulandela le mithetho mibini yegolide, uya kuba ngomnye wabona bonwaba kunye nabaphumeleleyo ekuhlaleni.