“I assist” sisenzo esinokuthi sithathwe ukuze sinciphise ukungakhululeki xa siziva okanye sinceda umntu ukuba aphile ngokukhawuleza kwingozi, ukugula okanye ukuphazamiseka.

Xa iingxaki zomtshato zishiywe zingalunganga kangangexesha elithile, zinokubangela usunduzwano olubi phakathi kwamaqabane omtshato kwaye oku kunokucaphukisa kakhulu komnye okanye kubo bobabini.

Ukuba kuye kwakho umlo phakathi kwamaqabane omtshato, le assist ilandelayo inokusetyenziselwa ukunceda ukuphatha nayiphi na imeko yeemvakalelo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.

Le assist ingenziwa ngamaqabane atshatileyo omnye komnye emva komlo okanye unokusetyenziswa ngomnye umntu ukunceda iqabane elinye okanye omabini amaqabane.

Inkqubo

1. Xelela umntu lowo ukuba uzakumnceda adlule kuwo umlo.
2. Cela mntu lowo ukuba ahlale phantsi kwisitulo esikhululekileyo ngakuwe.
3. Yithi emntwini, “Ndinike iindawo apho umntu onomsindo (umyeni/unkosikazi) angakhuseleka khona.” Umzekelo, ukuba ubencedisa umfazi, uyakuthi, “Ndinike iindawo apho umyeni onomsindo angakhuseleka khona.”
4. Fumana impendulo emntwini kwaye acknowledge (baxelele ukuba unxibelelwano lwabo lwamkelwe) ngo “Enkosi” okanye “Kulungile,” njl.
5. Yithi, “Ndinike iindawo apho indoda (ngumfazi/umfazi) enomsindo inokukufumana ukhuselekile.”
6. Fumana impendulo kwaye acknowledge.
7. Phinda amanyathelo e-3–6 uphinda phinde de umntu onwabe kwaye abe nokuqonda (ukuqonda ngesiquphe malunga nento) ethile—malunga naye, iqabane lakhe okanye ubomi nje ngokubanzi. Xa oku kusenzeka, mxelele umntu “Kukuphela kwe assist.”

Qiniseka ukuba awumxeleli loo mntu ukuba ucinga ntoni ngeempendulo zakhe okanye umxelele ukuba aphendule njani. Kwaye musa ukumnika ingcebiso malunga nento ajongene nayo ngexesha le assist. Musa ukucaphuka ngomntu ngeempendulo zakhe. Oku kuyatshabalalisa kwaye kungamisa zonke iinzuzo ebezinobakhona okanye ukulungiseka okunokwenzeka nanokufumana kwi assist.

Le assist ayijongani nayo nayiphi na into ebangele ungquzulwano.

Xa sele kuphantsi kolawulo ngokukhawuleza ukukhathazeka, izizathu zedabi kufuneka zifunyanwe. Umzekelo, omnye umntu, onjengesihlobo okanye umhlobo weqabane lomtshato, unokuba udala ukukhathazeka phakathi kwesibini esitshatileyo. Xa umntu ong’umthombo wokulwa efunyenwe (uhlala efihlakele), ukukhathazeka kuyalungiseka.

Unokufunda ukuba ungawufumana njani umthombo efihlakeleyo wengxabano ngokwenza ikhosi ye Ungazisombulula Njani Iimbambano kwi-Intanethi. Nokuba ngowuphi na unobangela wobunzima obufumanekayo, ukubuphatha ngokupheleleyo kufuneka kusetyenzwe kwaye kwenziwe.

Le assist inikezwe apha ngasentla lunokukuphelisa kakhulu ukukhathazeka phakathi kwabantu ababini abaye banee ngxabano ezimbi kwaye lubancede baphinde babuyele kunxibelelwano.