U-“assist” isenzo esingathathwa ukwehlisa ukungaphatheki kahle kothile ozwayo noma ukusiza umuntu alulame ngokushesha okukhulu engozini, ekuguleni noma ekuphatheni kabi.

Lapho izinkinga zomshado zishiywe zingaphethwe isikhathi esithile, zingambangela izingxabano ezinkulu phakathi kwabalingani bomshado futhi lokhu kungacasula kakhulu komunye noma kubo bobabili.

Uma kwenzeka ukuthi kube nokulwa phakathi kwabalingani bomshado, assist olulandelayo lungasetshenziswa ukusiza ukuphatha noma yisiphi isimo esingokomzwelo phakathi kwendoda nomkayo.

Lokhu assist kungenziwa ngabalingani bomshado komunye nomunye ngemuva kokulwa noma kungasetshenziswa ngomunye umuntu ukusiza oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani.

Indlela yokwenza izinto

1. Tshela umuntu ozomsiza ukuthi adlule ekulweni.
2. Cela lowo muntu ahlale esihlalweni esintofontofo phesheya kwakho.
3. Ithi kumuntu lowo, “Nginike izindawo lapho indoda (unkosikazi/umfazi) ethukuthele izovikeleka khona.” Isibonelo, uma ubusiza unkosikazi, ubungathi, “Nginike izindawo lapho indoda enolaka ingaphepha khona.”
4. Thola impendulo kumuntu futhi acknowledge (bazise ukuthi ukuxhumana kwakhe kwamukelwe) ngo “Ngiyabonga” noma “Kuhle,” njll.
5. Ithi, “Nginike izindawo lapho indoda (unkosikazi/umfazi) ethukuthele izokuthola uphephile.”
6. Thola impendulo futhi acknowledge.
7. Phinda izinyathelo 3–6 kaninginingi aze umuntu ajabule futhi abe nokuqonda (ukuqonda okungazelelwe okuthile) okuthile kohlobo oluthile—ngaye, ngoshade naye noma ngempilo nje jikelele. Lapho lokhu kwenzeka, mtshele lowo muntu ukuthi “Ukuphela kwe-assist.”

Qiniseka ukuthi ungamtsheli umuntu ukuthi acabangani ngezimpendulo zakhe noma umtshele ukuthi kufanele aphendule kanjani. Futhi ungamniki iseluleko ngalokho akwenzayo ngesikhathi so-assist. Ungamthukutheleli umuntu ngezimpendulo zakhe. Lokhu kuyonakalisa futhi kungamisa yonke inzuzo noma ukuthuthuka angakuthola lo-assist.

Lo-assist kusizelwa akusikhona ukuphatha noma yini edale ingxabano.

Lapho ukucasuka ngokushesha sekulawula, izizathu zempi kufanele zisatholakala. Isibonelo, omunye umuntu, njengesihlobo noma umngane womlingani womshado, kungenzeka ukuthi udala ukucasuka phakathi kwalabo abashadile. Lapho kutholakala umuntu source wokulwa (uvame ukufihlwa), ukucasuka kuyalungiswa.

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Lo-assist olunikezwe ngenhla lungakhulula kakhulu ukukhathazeka phakathi kwabantu ababili abake baba nengxabano embi futhi babasize ukuba baphinde bakwazi ukuxhumana nabanye.