Nganye kwezi zinto zintathu zokuqonda—umanyano, inyani kunye nonxibelelwano—zihambelana kakhulu. Ukuba kukho utshintsho kwenye yezi, ezinye ezimbini nazo ziyatshintsha. Ngenxa yokuba enye ixhomekeke kwenye, unokucinga ngazo njengonxantathu: Uphakamisa okanye unciphise ikona enye yalo nxantathu (ukunciphisa okanye ukwandisa uumanyano okanye inyani okanye unxibelelwano) kwaye ezinye iikona ezimbini nazo ziyenyuka okanye zehle. Oku kubizwa, ke, kwi Scientology, uNxantathu we A-R-C.

Ngaphandle komanyano, akukho nyani okanye unxibelelwano. Kwakhona, ngaphandle kwenyani, akukho manyano okanye unxibelelwano. Kwaye ngaphandle konxibelelwano, akukho manyano okanye inyani. Oku kunokubonwa kumzekelo wabantu ababini abangazaniyo bobabini abanokufumana kunzima ukuncokola (kungekho nxibelelwano), kuba abazi nto ngomnye (akukho nyani) kwaye bayakrokrelana kancinane okanye bayoyikana (umanyano oluphantsi).

Umanyano olulungileyo (ukuthanda okanye ukuthanda) kufuneka lubekhona phakathi kwabantu ababini ngaphambi kokuba bathethe kunye ngentembeko. Ngaphambi kokuba abantu ababini babe yinyani omnye komnye, kufuneka kubekho unxibelelwano phakathi kwabo. Kufuneka okungenani babonane, oko kukodwa, luhlobo lonxibelelwano. Phambi kokuba abantu ababini bazive ukuba banomanyano, kufuneka, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, babe yinyani omnye komnye. Akukwazeki ukuthanda into engekhoyo.

Kwenzeka ntoni xa ikona kanxantathu ithe ngequbuliso yehliswa (inqanaba lomanyano, inyani okanye unxibelelwano sele luhlile)? Ezinye ezimbini iikona ziya kuhla njengoko kunokubonwa kumzekelo wabahlobo ababini ubuhlobo babo buqhekeka ngequbuliso buphele. Obu buhlobo, sithi, bebomelele kakhulu, bobabini abahlobo babehloniphana, bethatha inxaxheba kunye kwimicimbi emininzi kwaye bethetha kunye ngokungafihlisiyo yonke imihla. Ungatsho ukuba babene “ARC” ephezulu omnye komnye, okanye, ngamanye amagama, babeqondana kakuhle. Nangona kunjalo, ngenye imini le ndlela yokuqonda yaphuka ngequbuliso xa omnye waba bahlobo babini efumanisa ukuba omnye umhlobo wayezibandakanye ngokufihlakeleyo kwimisebenzi engekho mthethweni. Olu lutshintsho ngesiquphe kwinyani umntu abenayo malunga nomhlobo wakhe. Ngale nyani intsha, akasamthandi umhlobo wakhe, inyaniso, ukuthanda kuguquke kwaba yintiyo—oku kukwehla okukhulu komanyano. Oku kukwabangela ukuba aphephe naluphi na unxibelelwano nomhlobo wakhe, angafuni ukuthetha naye njengoko engasamthembi okanye engamthandi, eziva engcatshiwe.

Zonke iikona ezintathu zonxantathu sele zehlile, ukwehla sele kuqale ngokophuka ngesiquphe kwinyani phakathi kwaba bahlobo babini, isivumelwano sokuba bazokunyaniseka omnye komnye siphuliwe. Ukuba nayiphi na ikona yonxantathu iyehla, ezinye ezimbini nazo ziyehla.

Imitshato inokuqhawuka ngenxa yokusilela konxibelelwano. Xa unxibelelwano luqala ukusilela, umanyano luqala ukuhla. Abantu baqala ukuba neemfihlo omnye komnye kwaye umanyano lwabo buqala ukuphuma ezantsi.

Kodwa okubaluleke ngakumbi kunemizekelo yokuthoba iikona zonxantathu, ungaphakamisa inqanaba lokuqonda ngokuqala ukuphakamise ikona ibenye yonxantathu. Ngamanye amagama, kuyimfuneko ukuba uphucule ikona enye yalo nxantathu, ukuphucula iikona ezimbini eziseleyo. Kumzekelo wabantu abangazaniyo esitratweni, ukuba baqala ukuthetha omnye nomnye (unxibelelwano), banokufumana ukuba banento abafana ngayo (inyani) kwaye abasoyikani omnye nomnye (ukuphakama komanyano) kwaye nokuqondana kwabo kuyaqala ukwanda. Oku kukhula kokuqonda phakathi kwaba bantu kuya kuqalwa ngokunyusa ikona enye yonxantathu—kule meko, unxibelelwano.

Unxibelelwano lolona lubaluleke kakhulu kula macandelo mathathu woNxantathu we ARC. Unxantathu ngokusisiseko uqala ngonxibelelwano kuba, ngokunxibelelana, unokuzisa umanyano kunye nenyani. Okukhona unxibelelana nento, kokukhona iya kuba yinyani kwaye luya kunyuka ngakumbi umanyano lwabo.

uNxantathu we ARC unokusetyenziswa ngeendlela ezininzi, ukusuka ekulungiseni imitshato eyaphukileyo ukuya ekufumaneni isicwangciso esitsha samkelwe kwinkampani. Nayiphi na indawo yobomi inokuphuculwa ngokusebenzisa lonxantathu, kuba usisixhobo sokwandisa ukuqonda ngokwako.