Abantu bajonge okungaphantsi kwisisongelo kwidawo ebangqongileyo, okanye ubuncinane indlela engcono yokusinda kwindawo abahlala kuyo.

Umntu unayo yonke into echongiweyo (yenziwe ibengathi injalo) ngalenxalenye yendawo engqongileyo esongelayo. Ukuba umfumana ukuba ahlule (akwazi ukuchaza umahluko) kwaye afumanise kukho ezinye iindawo ezingqongileyo zingasongeli, uya kwenza inkqubela phambili enkulu.

Umbono nje ocinga ngendawo eyi ngozi esingqongileyo kwaye eyoyikisayo kwaye awazi ukuba ivela phi le ngozi okanye ubunzima—loo mbono iyodwa sisixhobo esikhulu sobulumko. Akuzange kwenziwe kuye ngaphambili. Ubeyiva nje, ngalo lonke ixesha yiva.

Ungamnceda ngokuba ahlole iindawo ezithile zokusingqongileyo kwaye qaphela ukuba yenziwe yayingozi ngakumbi kunokuba injalo. Ukuhlola kukujonga okanye ukhangele into ngononophelo.

Umzamo wakho kukumenza ukuba ahlole imeko yakhe kwaye afumanise ukuba inesisongelo esincinci kuneso wakhokhelelwa ukuba akukholelwe.

Into emele umntu ayenze kukufunda indawo okungqongileyo kancinane.

Iziphumo zinokuphawuleka. Ukuphaphama kwakhe emzimbeni nasengqondweni kunokuphuculwa. Ungawenza ngcono amabhongo akhe kunye nenani lomsebenzi azibandakanye kuwo. Impilo yakhe inokuthi iphucuke kancinci.

Ulindele ntoni? Isenokuba yile kuphela: ukuba angothuki xa intsinbi yasemnyango ikhala. Sithetha ngoku malunga nokuphuculwa okuncinci kakhulu. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, olu phuculo luya kuba lolokwenyani ngokumangalisayo kuye.

Xa evuka kusasa akanakuziva kabuhlungu kuba kukho into eyoyikisayo ezakwenzeka. Oku akunakuphela, kodwa mhlawumbi kuya kuncipha. Uyakuba nokusebenza ngakumbi ebomini.

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba azuze ngaphezulu kunendlela oyilindeleyo kwaye nangaphezulu kunokuba elindele.

Nazi iinkqubo onokuzisebenzisa ukwenza oku:

1. Sukufunda Iphephandaba Iiveki Ezimbini

Mxelele umntu, “Musa ukufunda amaphephandaba iiveki ezimbini kwaye uya kuziva ubhetele.”

Ukuba akawafundanga amaphephandaba iiveki ezimbini, uya kuziva ebhetele.

Emva koko mxelele, “Ngoku funda iphephandaba iveki, kwaye ekupheleni kweveki uya kufumana ukuba uziva kakubi. Emva koko thatha isigqibo sokuba unikela ingqalelo okanye awuniki kumaphephandaba.”

Oku kunokwenziwa ngelinge elilula. Asiyonto enexabiso eliphakamileyo ukulinga—ngokomthetho, akubizi kakhulu ukungathengi amaphephandaba kunokuwathenga.

2. Jonga Ujikeleze Okungqongileyo kwaye Ufumana Into Engesiso Isisongelo

Mxelele:

“Jonga indawo engqongileyo kwaye ufumana into engeyiyongozi kuwe.”

Okanye masithi umntu unexhala lokuba izinto ziya kumwela. Mxelele:

“Jonga nxazonke ufumane into engazukuwela kuwe.”

Emva kwexesha elithile, mhlawumbi, uya kufumana into enye kwenye indawo. Kuya kufuneka umenze ukuba afumane into enye engeke iwele kuye kwaye uziva ngcono. Usenokude aqaphele ukuba ebecinga ukuba yonke into iza kumwela. Sele ekuxelele le nto, kodwa ngoku uyayazi ngokuhlola okusingqongileyo.

Ubuza umbuzo ade umntu onwabe okanye aphumle kwaye abe nokuziqonda, indawo emngqongileyo okanye ubomi ngokubanzi.

Wonke umntu ungqongwe kokwahlukileyo komnye umntu, ke kuya kufuneka uhlengahlengise isigama. Nanku umzekelo wamagama angalunganga, kodwa: masithi umntu unexhala kakhulu malunga nento eyenzekayo eTshayina. Ukuthi, “Ewe, sesiphi isisongelo esakha savela kuwe samaTshayina, kunjalo nje, ukuba ukhathazeke kangaka ngaso?” ayisebenzi. Ngoku kufuneka aqhankqalaze acacise indlela acinga ngayo. Uzifumana ebambekile ezama ukungqina ukuba yena ulungile nokuba wena uphosakele. Sebenzisa isigama esinikwe ngasentla, uguqula kuphela xa kuyinfuneko.

Ungazisebenzisa obu buchule ngokwakho. Unokuba nexhala kakhulu malunga nengxaki onayo. Unokuzibuza:

“Ngaba ikhona into ejikelezileyo engatyhaleli le ngxaki kum?”

Kungakuthatha imizuzu embalwa ukufumana umbuzo uphendulwe.

Okanye usenokuba uhleli edesikeni yakho egcwele amaphepha. Yonke into ibonakala ngathi isisiphithiphithi. Idesika yakho igqunywe ngamaphepha afuna ingqalelo yakho. Kuyakufuneka unako ukujonga amaphepha edesikeni yakho. Ngumthombo wosongelo. Fumana into ngayo engeso sisongelo. Isongelo siyakulungelelana ngokufunyanwa.

3. Thatha Uhambo

Enye indlela yokwenza umntu ajonge okusingqongileyo kwaye afumanise ukuba akoyiki kangako bubuchule obubizwa ngokuba “Thatha Uhambo.” Ukuba umntu uziva kakubi, mcele ahambe kwaye ajonge izinto njengoko ehamba jonga. Kuyakufuneka ngokwenene azijonge.

Isizathu sokuba oku kusebenze kukuba umntu ufumanisa ukuba imeko-bume ayisongeli.

“Thatha uhambo ujonge izinto” yeyona ngcebiso ilulamileyo unokuyinika nabani na, kwaye phantse ngokuqinisekileyo ivelisa isiphumo ukuba loo mntu uza kuyenza. Kuyinto esebenzayo.

4. Fumana into Engenabutshaba Nawe

Umntu uziva ngathi abantu banobutshaba (abunabuhlobo okanye babonisa ukungathandi) kuye. Mbuze:

“Fumana into ethethwa ngabantu okanye abayenzayo apha engakuchasanga.”

okanye

“Ngaba ukho umntu othile embuthanweni ongakuchasanga?”

okanye

“Ngaba ikhona into ethethwayo namhlanje ebingaqondanga ngqo kwaye inobutshaba kuwe?”

Qhubeka noku de umntu azive engcono, onwabile kwaye enokuziqonda, indalo, okumngqongileyo okanye ubomi ngokubanzi.

5. Ukujongana Nelahleko

Umntu osandula ukuphulukana nentombi yakhe, okanye umfazi ophulukene nendoda yakhe, uziva lusizi olubi kwaye ukulahleka kwakhe kuyinika yonke. Yonke into engqongileyo iya kuthetha ngothando olulahlekileyo. Ixesha elithile, angekhe kwenzeke ukuba ajonge macala onke kwaye ungamkhunjuzwa ngalomntu.

Xa ingqalelo yomntu ibe kakhulu komnye umntu, ngamanye amaxesha ngamanye amaxesha, kunzima kakhulu ukungadibanisi yonke into nalo mntu. Into ekufuneka yenziwe kukufumana into engakhumbuziyo umntu olahlekileyo. Kusenokufuneka akhangele indlela ende ukufumana into.

Le yindlela yokululama kububudlelwane bothando. Umntu ubonakalise yonke into ngokusingqongileyo ngokucaphuka kwakhe. Ngothathela ingqalelo yomntu kwizinto ezingqongileyo ezingadibananga kangako kwaye zimenze afumane izinto ezingamkhumbuziyo ngenkuthalo, ufumana umahluko (ubuchule bokuqaphela umahluko phakathi kwezinto ezimbini okanye ngaphezulu). Ngaphambi koko, bekukho isazisi (ngokubhekisele kwinto kanye efana nenye). Apho umehluko ukhona, ubukrelekrele nomgwebo zinokubuya.

Mxelele, “Fumana into engakukhumbuziyo u ________ (igama lomntu elahlekileyo).”

Qhubeka ufumana umntu ukuze afumane into engamkhumbuziyo loo mntu ade abenokuziqonda kwaye azive ngcono.

6. Ukucwangcisa uBomi baLowo

Ngokwenza umntu acwangcise ubomi angabuphila ngokuzolileyo kwaye bungasongeli, ubomi abuphilayo kuyancipha ukusongela kubo.

Masithi lo mntu kufuneka awugcinile umsebenzi wakhe nangona kungahlawulwa ngokwaneleyo. Alikho ithuba lokuba afumane enye into. Ufumana indawo engqongileyo inobutshaba. Le ndoda ikwibhokisi yokuzenzela.

Menze ukuba acwangcise ubomi obungasongeli kangako, nokuba ucwangcise ngokungakhathali okanye uphupha kangakanani. Uya kuba nakho ukuqhubeka nokusebenza emsebenzini wakhe ngolonwabo ngakumbi kwaye aziva ezolile.

Ingxaki esisiseko umntu abenayo yindlela anokungena ngayo kwindawo emngqongileyo ekunciphe kuyo ukusongela okanye, ukuba akakwazi ukwenza oko, indlela yokujongana ngcono nale anayo.

7. Ulahla Zonke Izinto Ezingunobangela Wokukhathazeka

Oku kukwenza ukuba loo mntu ayeke ukwenza izinto ezimkhathazayo okanye ayeke ukuthetha nabantu abamcaphukisayo.

Unokuthi kulo mntu, “Lahla ezinye izinto ebomini bakho ezikukhathazayo.”

Okanye buza, “Ngubani na okucaphukisayo? Ewe, ungathethi nabo okwethutyana.”

Okanye mbuze, “Yeyiphi imisebenzi ekwenza uzive ukhathazekile? Ewe, musa ukuyenza okwethutyana.”

Okanye usenokumbuza, “Zeziphi izinto ezisingqongileyo ezingezizo izoyikiso kuwe? Kulungile, unazo ezinye zazo? Kulungile. Nxulumana nazo. Nika ingqalelo engakumbi kuzo.”