I assist ithwala kuyo uxanduva oluthile. Umntu udlula ebomini kwaye adibane nabantu abaninzi. Uya kuzifumana ukwimeko apho umntu ongamaziyo angazuza kwi assist.

Indlela yakho phantsi kwezi meko kufuneka ingqale kwaye ibe yeyakhayo. Yiba nobungcali kwaye uqiniseke. Awudingi nokuba ucele imvume, yenze nje. Ukuba uza kumnceda umntu ongamaziyo ngaphandle, mncede. Ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo, njengengozi, ungami nje ucacisela abantu into oza kuyenza okanye ulinde imvume. Ukuba ukwindawo apho kukho ingxolo nokubhideka, yenza ngokungathi nguwe ophetheyo kwaye iya kuba nguwe ophetheyo. Ukuba wenza oku kakuhle, assists ozinikezayo ziya kunceda abantu.

Umzekelo, kukho ingozi enkulu kwaye isihlwele sabantu siyatyhalana sizama ukubona okwenzekileyo. Amapolisa azama ukutyhalela abantu ngasemva. Ewe, batyhalele abantu ngasemva, kwaye woyame phezu kwexhoba kwaye umnike i assist. Ukuba unokwanela apho, wonke omnye umntu uyakuqonda ukuba nguwe olapho.

Izinto ezinje ngexhala, unxunguphalo, ukumangala, ukucaphuka, ukujonga ukuphupha uzibuza ukuba yintoni ephosakeleyo okanye yintoni efanele yenziwe azinanto yakwenza nokunikezela i assist. Kuya kufuneka uhlale uzolile kakhulu. Qonda ukuba ukuthatha ulawulo lwayo nakweyiphi na imeko kuyimfuneko ukuba ubukho ngaphezulu kwakhe nawuphi na umntu. Akukho mlingo bubandakanyekileyo. Yiba lapho nje. Abanye abantu abalapho abekho. Kwaye ukuba ulapho ngokwaneleyo, ke umntu ozama ukumnceda uya kuzikhupha ngaphandle kwayo kwaye aqhubeke nokuphila.

Apho unika umntu i assist, lungisa indawo eningqongileyo njengenyathelo lokuqala, ngaphandle kokuba udinga ukunika uncedo kuqala.

Uncedo lokuqala luhlala lungaphambi kwe assist. Kuya kufuneka ujonge ngaphezu kwemeko ukuqinisekisa uba loluphi uncedo lokuqala oludigekayo. Mhlawumbi uyakufumana umntu onobushushu bekhulu elinamancici amathandathu idegrees odinga ukulala phantsi kwaye aphoiliswe ngaphambi kokuba kwenziwe neyiphi na i assist. Angabhetele ukuba asiwe kugqirha ukuze afumane amayeza okubulala iintsholongwane kune assist ngelo xesha.

Umzekelo olungileyo ingaba yimeko apho ibhinqa lihlamba izitya ekhitshini. Ngequbuliso, kubakho ukungqubulana okukhulu kwaye loo mfazi uwa phantsi abetheke emgangathweni. Kodwa njengoko esehla, ubamba imela yokuxhela kwaye usika isandla sakhe. Enye yezinto zokuqala onokuyenza kukusonga ibhandeji esandleni sakhe ukunqanda ukopha. Elinye icandelo loncedo lokuqala iya kuba kukuthabatha izitya uzibuyisele kwisinki kwaye utshayele iziqwenga kunye zibe yinqwaba. Eli linyathelo lokuqala lokubuyisela ulawulo.

Emva koko uya kumnika i assist. Ukumsusa kwindawo yengozi akunqweneleki njengokwenza i assist apho kuye. Mhlawumbi oku kuchasene noko ukukholelwayo, kodwa kuyinyani, kwaye kungenxa yoko le nto uzisa ucwangco kwindawo eningqongileyo kuqala. Ucwangcisa kwindawo ebanzi ngakumbi kunesandla esi sikekileyo ukuze uzise ukuphiliswa kwisandla esi sikekileyo. Ukuba uyayiqonda into yokuba uxanduva lwakho luhlala lubanzi ngakumbi kunommandla wengxolo kunye nokubhideka, uya kuphumelela ngakumbi. Ukuba uzisa ucwangco kwindawo eningqongileyo ebanzi, uyizisa nakwindawo eningqongileyo emxinwa.

Ukuba uyazi ukuba uya kwindawo yeengozi kwaye uza kuba kwindawo ejikelezwe yintshabalalo enkulu kunye nesiphithiphithi, uya kuba usisidenge kakhulu ukuba awunalo uqeqesho loncedo lokuqala. Khumbula ukuba kungafuneka ufumane indlela yokulawula, yokuphatha kunye nokuyalela abaqeshwa abangena endleleni yakho phambi kokuba unikeze i assist. Kule meko i assist ifuna ukuba ulawule indawo eningqongileyo yonke kunye nabaqeshwa abanxulumene ne assist ukuba kukho imfuneko.

Unawo onke amalungelo noxanduva lokuphelisa imbandezelo xa uyibona.

Eyona ndlela ephambili yokuphelisa ukubandezeleka yi assist.